If we use our mind to focus on happy memories or thoughts we tend to feel happier if we think of sad thoughts we usually feel less happy this is generally true for most people.
If you are feeling sad you may discover it’s hard to think of happy thoughts,so the thoughts and images we see and feel inside affect how we deal with the out side world.
People with depression who are asked to think of a happy time in their life can find it almost impossible because when we feel sad the mind often looks at images and thoughts that match the mood.
Too much stress alters the way we process information, long periods of concentration become can become harder the more stressed we get, until its all but impossible to think clearly, you must have seen people in a panic running around but actually achieving very little, or it takes them twice as long due to the many mistakes and lack of attention to detail.
In a work environment this lead to even more stress and anxiety and sometimes a lowering of self esteem and confidence.
Some of the internal factors that negatively influence our stress levels
Our ability to change how we handle stress and anxiety are often flawed by our inability to understand how our own thoughts and perceptions self sabotage the capability to deal with life in general. Your self defeating thoughts and negative internal feed back can change the way you deal with stressful events.
If you have low self esteem the option to stand up for what you need becomes harder to do, so instead of saying no you find your self saying yes, yes to working on when you really need to go home or yes to helping another person when you do not really have the time, saying yes when you need to say no will place you at more risk of long term debilitating levels of stress.
Negative thinking is another way we place ourselves at more risk from stress, situations always seem worse and more stressful than it actual is, we can even create our own stress by constantly looking on the negative and ignoring the positive.
So how we think and feel about ourselves has a bearing on how we can protect ourselves from the affects of stressful situations, this is where online therapy could possibly help us to not the immediate problem or issue but help us with future experiences and allow you to improve the quality of life in general with stress counselling and learning to manage the way we think with therapy.